Guide, don't warn

http://www.lifehack.org/638451/the-danger-of-saying-be-careful-to-children

Be careful” is just too vague.  Kids need more information.  I'm guilty of this.

Here are some ways to foster awareness:

- Notice how... these rocks are slippery, that branch is strong
- Do you see... the poison ivy, your friends nearby?
- Try moving... your feet carefully, quickly, strongly
- Try using your hands, arms
- Can you hear.. the rushing water, the singing birds?
- Do you feel... stable on that rock, the heat from the fire?
- Are you feeling... scared, excited, tired, safe?

Help them problem solve:

- What's your plan... if you climb that boulder, cross that log?
- What can you use.. to get across, for your adventure?
- Where will you... put that rock, dig that hole?
- How will you.. get down, get across?
- Who will... be with you, go with you, help you if?

Help them see situations from different angles and get them to focus on less negative outcomes.  We feel what we think.  I need to remember this.



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